The life you lead is dictated by the thoughts you choose to encourage
. I do not mean passing thoughts; I mean the kind of thoughts that penetrate the core of your being and shape your character. The thoughts that dictate what you love, hate, cherish, and admire. The thoughts that shape your unique perception of the world. The thoughts you nurture and justify.
If you had told me, “Your thoughts determine your ultimate results” when I was in college, I would have said you were crazy. I would have retorted that my actions create my results, that it doesn’t matter what I think
, only what I do
It wasn’t until I went through rehab that I started to connect the dots – namely, my internal fears and insecurities were resulting in my drinking habit. How I was inside was determining how I acted, which in turn dictated my results in the outside world. Presented with positive information during rehab, I learned to change my way of thinking to take a positive path in life in direct opposition to the negative one I had been on. The new insight and correction in my way of thinking was profound and struck at the core of my very being – even if I would need to understand this lesson at a deeper level later on. As a result of learning to change my thoughts, I was also able to change my actions. As my actions began to change, the world around me opened up and a new realm of possibilities presented themselves. I developed a more positive outlook, and in turn made better decisions.
“He who cannot change the very fabric of his thought will never be able to change reality, and will never, therefore, make any progress
.” – Anwar Sadat
Simply put, our lives are shaped by our minds. What we think deep inside, where no one is looking, is who we are and who we will continue to be unless we learn to alter these thoughts. And who we are dictates what we can achieve, and how successful we can become.
How can you alter these thoughts? Autosuggestion
, as discussed in our last post, is one powerful way to change the messages in your mind.
Below are some practical examples of how our negative internal thoughts produce external results, and some suggestions for positive mantras to replace the old thoughts. Try it out, and let us know in the comments how it works for you.
||New Belief Mantra to Replace the Old Thought
|“If I don’t succeed at football, I’m a nobody.
||Obsession with football, drinking to stifle the feelings of inadequacy.
||I am worthwhile, important, and valuable regardless of my success in football.
|“Without wealth I am weak. My money makes me strong and gives me power.”
||Fear and stress surrounding finances, conspicuous consumption to “prove” your wealth to the world.
||I am strong and powerful. Money is simply a tool.
|“If I share my feelings, people will take advantage of me.”
||Not trusting, being paranoid and controlling.
||Sharing my vulnerability makes me strong, and empowers those around me.